Category Archives: Explaining the News

Explaining the news

 

At some point I made a deal with myself that I wasn’t going to be ‘that’ bitter 40 something year old without kids. That I wouldn’t distance myself from couples with kids and kids parties. And today, I find myself going to great lengths to avoid couples with kids and especially kids parties.

How did I get here? When did this happened?

It took me some time to unpack this, and thought just maybe I’m just bitter. But no. What it took was having to endure the many comments and assumptions made about me without kids.

Like the time a friend was cradling her swollen pregnant belly, rubbing my right arm, saying “It will happen for you too” her head tilted – her eyebrows all droopy.

It wasn’t

And another time when I opened an email from a work colleague apologising for talking about her pregnancy during lunch with the girls and how difficult it must be for me to listen to it.

It wasn’t

And more recently when another friend understood how painful it must have been for me to go through IVF.

I haven’t

At the time, my reaction to these were nothing more than annoyance. Annoyances which I now realise were the beginnings of ‘that’ forty something year old woman. I found those comments somewhat amusing – almost a game as I watched these women frantically search my face for some hint that will confirm their deep insightful and empathetic comments, where in reality, all I heard were stupid and insensitive words. And for the briefest time I was the winner of that game. But today I don’t feel like the winner and these comments have managed to wear me down.

So, deal broken, I am ‘that’ woman, but not bitter just a little tired and wants to hide from the world sometimes.

New links added to my blog:

Podcast

The Murder of Mollie Dean – runs for 50 min. [ABC’s Conversations with Richard Fidler]
A crime from 1930s Melbourne. Mollie Dean was part of Melbourne’s bohemian society. This podcast reveals a chapter of our history – while not pretty, in fact horrific in parts, tells us a little about Melbourne’s bohemian society and how Mollie Dean left her mark on it.

Video

How to photograph your artwork – runs for 8 minutes

 

Australia: Confession & Canon Law

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In Australia, A Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse was conducted over 5 years. Apart from highlighting major injustices that have occurred in our institutions it also made a number of recommendations.  One which was –  The ministry of churches (not just the Catholic Church) should not be exempt from reporting information discovered in religious confession.

References:
Royal commission: Celibacy and confessional overhaul proposed in child sex abuse findings http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-12-15/royal-commission-into-child-abuse-makes-almost-200-new-findings/9261286
Breaking the seal of confession could pit church against state http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-08-14/breaking-the-seal-of-confession-could-pit-church-against-state/8805126
15 recommendations from the royal commission into child sexual abuse you should know about http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-12-15/royal-commission-recommendations-you-should-know-about/9262758
Royal commission: Celibacy and confessional overhaul proposed in child sex abuse findings http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-12-15/royal-commission-into-child-abuse-makes-almost-200-new-findings/9261286

 

AUSTRALIA: We say YES to marriage equality

A very proud day for Australia.

 

AUSTRALIA: RACIST ATTACK

Laughter

It’s been a while since my last post. I have gone back a little to my old ways of illustrating. There’s not much to explain here other than the sheer joy of creating from scratch and having some fun.

I’m trying to depict that moment of friends sharing a moment of laughter. You know that laughter that is instantly contagious when you’re around it? That moment there.

Australia: Same Sex Marriage Postal Vote September 2017